Right where I need to be.

I recently listened to a lecture online about Goals. The man, who recorded this particular lecture in the 70's, said "If you share your goals with other people, you are less likely to complete them" His reasoning was, you receive the praise from sharing your goal, which triggers the same gratification as completing your goal. So all of those positive things you say to someone when they share their goals are actually counter effective. With that said, and the standard New Years Resolutions that take place this time of year, I am not sharing a god damned thing. Hahaha! No really, I can't share my goals because they mean too much to me. And to everyone who has set goals, keep them to yourself until you have completed them! Wait for that praise and gratification.

My etsy site, el Cheapo Vintage, which is presently my Full Time job is trucking right along. January is the beginning of my third month in business and things are right on the track they should be on. I miss my community thrift store in Hawaii, but I am seeking out new thrifting venues almost daily. Last week I hit a thrift store and an amazing estate sale. I left with a giant box of some of the most amazing vintage pieces I have ever seen! Proudly holding my box, waiting in line I notice a girl next to me with a full box of her own and her finds make my box contents look like poop. I was SO incredibly jealous. I even blurted out "Where did you find that stuff?!?" Which prompted her to look down at the floor, avoid eye contact, and say "In a closet" Well as I soaked in my jealousy I catch on to the fact that she has an 'in' with the estate sale company and totally got the hook up on scoping things out prior to the doors opening. But it's ok...I have to constantly remind myself of this when vintage shopping. It's hilarious how my competitive nature strikes up full force over someone else's junk. In thrift stores I have to pace myself, and keep my eyes centered and not peek in other people's carts or stare as they pull something off the rack. I have had to create a shopping mantra just to calm myself down. "I am right where I need to be" I probably repeat this 20-30 times an hour while shopping to remind myself that I need to present and not worried about what I could have missed or what is on the next aisle. Often I am so focused on what the next person has in her basket, or what the employees are wheeling out of the stock room, that I completely miss a pure vintage gem right in front of me.

Ironically, the mantra pertains to a lot more than thrift store shopping. So many times we rush from one thing to the next not even realizing what we have right in front of us. We are searching for what everyone else has, without taking inventory of the wealth we have. We are thinking of the woulda, coulda, shoulda's and not trusting ourselves and instincts or intuition. The next time you find yourself worrying about or dwelling on a moment other than the present remind yourself "This is right where I need to be" If you are planning the future and regretting the past you are not living in the present. Be right where you need to be. Here. Now. No matter where or when, you are always right where you need to be.